Monday, November 24, 2014

We made it to Texas...

To tell this story properly I have to go back to before we moved.  

 As many of you know we lived in military housing just outside of base.  It was fine for our needs at the time and honestly moving is such a pain in the butt that it would have taken a really awesome dream house to get me out of there.  

Base housing had all kinds of issues though.  We couldn't paint.  The house was brand new when we moved in to it back in 2010.  So we had primed walls, but not painted walls.  White primer walls.  With two, then three, then four little children.  Add in the cheapest carpet possible in that pale tan.  You can't keep that carpet clean and looking new.  It's not meant to last more than a year at most.  Housing wants us to keep it looking new for at least seven years.  No.  I'm not joking. Not joking at all.  There was no way to keep the walls clean.  It was drywall with texture and primer.  

Nightmare.  

But it was our home.  I did my best.  We had four and a half really good years in that house.  It's the longest we have lived in one home in our entire marriage.  

Then the military decided we would move to Texas.  We put in our notice and got our list of what had to be done to move out.  They wanted the place to look like new.  No really.  Like new.  

They did a pre-inspection and told us that the carpet downstairs was some of the worst they have seen.  Excessive wear and tear.   The walls were filthy (not really, but well you could tell we had been living there and that there wasn't real paint on the walls).  There were some holes in a few doors (they said they would just replace the doors at $90 a door, at our expense naturally).  They wanted the yard spotless.  The garage floor spotless.  The appliances spotless.  You get the picture.  

So.  I do what us women do.  After the movers packed all our stuff I cleaned.  I had friends come help me clean (and let me tell you I have some of the most wonderful friends in the world).  And then my mom arrived and the cleaning kicked into high gear, because my mom is seriously Queen Amazing of Totally Awesome Amazing-ville. No seriously.  I don't kid about her amazing-ness.  Anyone who knows her will back me up.  

Once the house was empty my friends Beth and Nicole came over and helped my mom and me wrap things up.  I have to say that by midnight we had that house looking amazing and as close to new as it was every going to be without being, well, new.  

I need to add that my amazing husband took care of the carpets.  We were told they would have to replace them unless their carpet specialist said he could save what we had.  Brady busted out our carpet cleaner and got busy.  Their carpet specialist told us they looked really good.  Minor fixes needed.  Go Brady.  I figure he saved us easily $300. 

At final inspection we got double lucky.  They inspector was late because he had just come from a really, really bad final inspection.  He said if it was up to him he would just burn it down and start over.  Eeek!  By comparison our house looked awesome.  Even better my mom patched the doors and our inspector ended up having to ask if his notes were wrong and didn't we have holes in the doors?  He couldn't find the patches so he told us that was good enough for him.  

In the end we owed a measly $170ish (which is really really good considering a cleaning crew would have charged us close to $400 to guarantee passing).  I was so very happy.  We handed over our keys and closed the door on the Nebraska phase of our military adventure.  

Two long days of driving later we arrived in Texas.  Let me just say that drivers in Texas are some of the most insane drivers I have ever encountered.  Off the road they are friendly and generous.  Once they get behind the wheel they are like the nasty, snarling love child of California drivers and New York Cabbies.  After living in laid back and easy going Nebraska for so long, it was a shock and quite terrifying driving the roads of Texas.  Thankfully I grew up driving the roads of Las Vegas.  I have rebounded quickly.   

Previous to moving down south-er, we had put in an application and lots of monies on a home rental in the hopes that we would be able to move in ASAP.  We had been here two days without hearing a peep from either our Realtor or the management company handling the rental. We were told it would take, maximum, two days to process our application and either approve us or not.  By our second day here they had been "processing" us for almost a week. Considering Brady has one of the highest security clearances you can get with the government we were pretty sure we weren't the problem.  After finally getting an email back from our Realtor (who didn't know what was up) we called the management company and talked with them.  Apparently we were approved but for some reason the home owner had some legal issues to clear up before we could move in to the house.  

Why was the house listed for rent if we couldn't actually rent it yet?  Good question.  We still don't know what was going on, but our Realtor convinced us to give them another day.  So we did. We prayed a lot.  The next day we heard nothing from either our Realtor or the management company.  By that evening we were more than a little annoyed.  The next morning I started looking up more rentals on my phone.  It sucks looking up stuff like that on your phone even with good Wifi. By late morning, after attempting to talk with our Realtor with no luck, we contacted the management company and told them we were withdrawing our application and wanted our money back.  We couldn't wait for them to get their crap together.  We needed to get the kids back in school and be out of limbo.  Temporary housing at Lackland had given us a room with a pull out bed, kitchen, bathroom and one queen bed that was supposed to house all six of us.  Thank the heavens my mom was traveling with us and she got a really good room at a hotel and the girls all stayed with her.  Not ideal.  We had been living that way for a week.  

Part of being an adult is figuring out how to do really annoying things.  Things like turn your money orders written out to someone else back into your money.  It can be done.  It's annoying and thank heavens we were in San Antonio where there is an actual physical branch of our bank or we would have had a much more difficult time of things. 

After figuring that part out Brady and I found a McDonalds (free wifi and a play place for Owen) and started making calls.  One of the houses on our list was still available.  In fact we could drive to their offices and apply right there, pay the application fee with our debit card and go see the house if we wanted.  After double checking that the schools were good (better than good actually, the elementary is one of the best rated in the city) we drove out to their office.  They were friendly and very helpful.  Let us use a computer to fill out applications, paid the fee and we followed one of their Reps out to the house.  

We drove up to see this...


It's an older home.  As old as I am actually. It was remodeled in the 1990s.  It's not terribly big.  Only about 2100 sf but the space is well used.  The back yard is huge with mature trees.  


As we walked through the house the Rep told us that we had already been approved (we filled out an application and were approved within 30 minutes of filling it out) and that if we liked the house we could sign a lease the next day (Friday) and move in on Monday.  

It was like a weight had been lifted from my shoulders.  At that point we had been homeless for almost two weeks, the kids had been out of school for a week, and we had been getting no help from our Realtor at all. After spending almost three weeks on trying to get that first house, playing phone tag with our Realtor and all but worrying myself into an early grave, Brady and I had accomplished in one day what our Realtor said would take at least a week more.  I know that the Lord was helping us.  I know there was no way that we could have found this house, perfect for our needs, with an amazing school for the kids, in what is turning out to be an awesome ward at church without his help. 

So we moved in on Monday the 10th of November.  Our shipment of household goods arrived on the 13th and as of the 21st we are unpacked and put away.  Somethings are still a little chaotic as we don't have the same space we had before, but I think we are coping nicely.  Thanks to my super amazing mom we built some desks to suit our computer needs and got some beds for everyone.  

As a quick detour, I need to say a very public thank you to my mom.  While we probably could have done a lot of this on our own, she made everything easier.  My parents generosity really knows no bounds and I am so thankful that I am their daughter.  I am thankful for the monetary help they give (they spoil us honestly) but even more than that I am so thankful for the time and physical help they give us.  My mom can do anything and has taught me that I can really do anything I put my mind to, and my dad is always will to help or just hold down the fort while my mom spends sometimes weeks helping us get from point A to point B.  

And a big thank you to my sister Cecily and her son Tyson.  I know life was really not cool without Grandma in the house, but thank you for letting us have her as long as we needed her.  :) 

Now some pictures of our house.  Please ignore any messes as things are still a bit up in the air in some rooms!  

This first one is the view from the front door. There is a  coat closet to the immediate right (not in the picture) and stairs to the left.  We have a fire place and that is where we decided to mount the TV.  Brady's desk (that he built big enough to house the kids computer as well) is also to the right.  


Then there is most of the living room and the back door. 


It's all one big great room technically.  


Those empty shelves above the piano will actually stay empty.  We put them up for the cats (as they prefer heights) and they use them daily and sleep up in that corner above the book shelf often. 


The view into my kitchen.  Not very big, but I actually have better counter space here than I did back in our last house.  


Then we have the powder room and the door to the pantry and garage. 


Good sized pantry with deep shelves that the cats are always dying to get into.


The only real negative about the house (and it's not much of one) is that the laundry is in the garage.  It's got it's own little nook though and it's not that big of a deal in the long run.  


And here is a picture of the tree swing my mom picked up for the kids.  She also bought us a pick nick table.  


A view down the stairs...


Owen and Cadence's room with the new bunk bed. 


Rory and Beckah's room with their new bunk bed. 


The kids bathroom upstairs. 


The new toy room with our new futon/couch (saves us so much room and turns into a bed!  So much win!). 


A view from the futon in the toy room.  The kids WiiU and DVD player are in the closet (we took off all the doors to the closets as they were super old.  Gave us lots of space. 


And the master bedroom where my computer, sewing stuff, and all the random crap that doesn't have homes yet live.  


And the master bathroom is through that door with the walk in closet to the left.  


And that's the tour!  Nothing special, but I'm really happy with it.  Having a house and the kids in school again has been a big part in making Texas feel like home.  

The kids are loving their school.  I'm always so impressed by how well they accept new things.  Especially big things like moving in the middle of the school year to a new state.  They have looked at it as an adventure.  They were excited about a new school.  No fear at all from them.  They just jumped right in and their teachers are loving them.  Cadence took a very hard, major test for the district her second day of school and still managed to score in the top 10% of her class.  Rory is reading and now that she has figured it out she is way ahead of her classmates and so proud of herself.  

I'm happy to say that so far Texas is suiting us.  Now if I could just get my sense of direction working again, life will be just about perfect.  

Monday, September 22, 2014

Good Times at Walmart


Fun stuff at the Walmart this morning. But before I begin I should explain that I am very sick and only ventured out to get some more meds to help me cope. My throat and neck are so sore and stiff that talking is extremely painful. If I do talk I sound something like an old goat with throat cancer. Add to that my constant sinus headache and the painful pressure in my ears and I am sure you can imagine my less than perky attitude this morning.
We picked up my meds and a few more things for the kids to tide us over until I'm better again. Owen and Beckah were excellent and most helpful considering they are 2 and 3. In my basket was a six pack of the little cans of rootbeer so we could make some rootbeer floats to go with the little Family Home Evening I had Cadence help me plan.
I'm at check out waiting my turn. All is going very well. The kids aren't even begging for candy. Then along comes a little old lady with a cart full of hard liqueur (at least 11 bottles), beer, and several bags of chips. She tells me my kids "look nice" in that tone of voice that says "I actually hate children but I'll act socially acceptable in public." I say that they are nice and I'm willing to let it go there. I start to load my stuff on the belt.
This little old lady spots the root beer. At that moment she must have decided she had a death wish. It's the only explanation I can think of for what she said next.
"What kind of mother are you to give your little kids SODA."
I'm sure my eyebrows did a little social climbing, but with my throat feeling like I'd swallowed broken glass all I did was shake my head and ignore the crazy woman.
"Well! What do you have to say for yourself young woman?!" At that I smiled, because really? Of all the people in the Walmart this woman has to find me? Feeling like I do? It's laugh or punch her in the face. I'm pretty sure that Jesus would want me to laugh. The old lady was still talking but I only caught the last bit...
"...and you certainly don't deserve those sweet babies if you are just going to poison them with SODA."
That was really just too much. I forgot all about Jesus (so sorry about that, really I am) looked at the woman, looked pointedly at the contents of her cart then back to the woman and then gave her the bird.
I'm a bad bad person, but the look on her face was so very worth it.
She sputtered a bit saying something like, "Well I never" and "Young people" and "respect." I'm not entirely sure since I was checking out at that point. Then she says, "I should report you for abusing those kids."
I just started laughing. It hurt really bad, but really that was just funny. Report me for giving my kids root beer. I wasn't the only one laughing though. The checker, the woman behind the old lady and the checker next to us were all laughing. The old woman looked ready to explode so I just told her to have a nice day and took the kids and walked out.
Why do I attract the crazies?

Tuesday, September 2, 2014

Happy Birthday Rory!

Six years.  That's how long you've been my daughter.  You were actually my easiest pregnancy.  I remember during your delivery, when I started to push, you stretched your legs all the way out and used to your feet to push on my ribs.  You were determined to join us as fast as possible, even if it meant you had to help. 


You bonded with your big sister right from the start.  She was completely in love with you even before you were born.  It's like she was waiting for you to join her and you two have been almost inseparable since we brought you home.  


You have always been such a tiny thing.  
  

Little and delicate looking. 


But looks are deceiving.  Your tiny build somehow manages to hold an exceptionally bright and big personality.  


I have loved watching you grow up.  Watching you grow closer to your sister. 


You were always so busy even as a baby. 


You wanted to be everywhere and see everything. 


You crawled early and never really slowed down after that. 


You are so free with your emotions.  Easy to cry but also easy to laugh. 
  

Quick to temper but also quick to love.  


You have dealt with so many hard things in your short life and you have done it with joy.


I remember in the chaos that was the year between your 2nd and 3rd birthdays.  Doctors appointment after doctors appointment.  IVs and blood draws and scopes.   


And you just rolled with everything.  You brought smiles to all the doctor's and nurses faces as they did what needed to be done.  You rarely cried about any of it and you treated everything like the adventure it was.


And when we had to change everything about what you could eat you took it in stride.  


You learned quickly what you could and couldn't have and you never complained about missing out even when you couldn't eat at a birthday party.  


You have been such a wonderful example to me of how to except what we can't change and instead make our new path exciting and fun.  


I love seeing your father's eyes in your sweet face.


I love your goofy laugh and how freely you give smiles.  


I love that you love others so readily.  You see what I so often over look and you aren't afraid to tell complete strangers that they are beautiful.  


I love that you are quick to defend your siblings.  You never hesitate.  Despite your size you just jump right into the fray and give it all you have got. 


You challenge me.  I want to pretend that I am more like Cadence, and while I have always been responsible and reliable, I am actually more like you.  I too am quick to all those heady emotions I see boiling in you. You have taught me more about having patience, with you and myself, than all my other children combined. Mothering you has helped me grow into a better person.


You are my creative party girl.  You come up with such wonderful ideas and you believe I can make all of them come true.  I love that you believe in me and that you believe anything is possible. 


I love that you give your whole self to everything you do.  You would rather not do anything at all then do something halfway.  


You have taught me to appreciate surprises. 


You are an amazing big sister.  It's not an easy job, but you are always so willing to love your siblings. 


Now you are another year older.   


And my sweet little baby is growing into a beautiful girl. 



I am so proud of who you are growing into.


Happy Birthday Rory!  We love you with all our hearts!


Tuesday, August 12, 2014

First Day of School!

It's insane.  I have two kids in school now.  A third grader and a kindergartner.  How does this stuff happen so fast?  


Things were a little bit complicated this year with Brady still away.  Third grade lines up on the complete opposite side of the school from kindergarten. We were also running behind thanks to the two littlest people in the house so we ended up saying good day to Cadence and letting her run to the other side of the school to line up while the rest of us pretty much ran to the other end of the school to line Rory up for the first time. 


Thankfully Cadence is a pro and didn't mind in the least.  And thankfully Rory's teacher was saying hi to all the kids in line so they were late walking in and we just made it in time.    


Both girls have excellent teachers this year and I am super sad that we will only have them until the end of October. Then we will be at a new school in San Antonio doing the first day all over again.  

Beckah and Owen had a really good day at home with just me.  Beckah did ask when we could go and pick up the girls at twenty minute intervals the whole time they were gone.  But Owen only screamed at and tackled Beckah to the ground over toy rights three times.  Over all I considered the day a success.